Oluwafemi Oyeleye
6 min readAug 3, 2020

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10 Stupid Actions Immature People Possess

There are several stupid actions immature people possess. Maturity is beyond an age thing. It’s a product of knowledge and understanding which results in practical wisdom in daily living.

In this article, I’ve highlighted 10 stupid actions immature people possess, just for you. You’ll surely find one or more of them among attitudes you never thought were stupid.

Before I delve into the main article, I’ll take you through some facts about maturity.

Let’s get started.

What is Maturity?

The first thing to understand here is that maturity is not majorly how old you are. Though, it’s normal to agree that growth proves maturity. I believe the same too. But see, not everyone matures as they grow.

Truth is, maturity is beyond just growing up, it’s a major part of development in growth. Don’t ignore it. You deliberately mature. You choose to.

If you choose to mature, you’ll learn, study, and observe life. You’d crave knowledge. You’d care to understand how things really work in the real world, not in fantasies within your imagination.

"Maturity is a high price to pay for growing up" - Tom Stoppard.

Tom Stoppard, a brilliant writer, calls maturity a high price to pray for growing up. I totally agree with him. Growing up won't be to increase in age and destroy old calendars. It'll mean to develop in growth.

Maturity can be understood within 5 broad categories. This leads to the next subhead of this article.

The 5 Categories of Maturity

1. Physical Maturity

This has to do with age, physical growth, coordination of eyes and hands of people. They’re basically visible increases, expressions and outward appearances.

2. Emotional Maturity

People who are Emotional Intelligent are highly intellectual. This skill are within the confines of your emotions. How do you act when pressured? What if someone angers you? Are you patient? Do you flare up like every little thing that provokes you?

3. Intellectual Maturity

This has to do with how smart you are. Intellectual personalities at their best are brainy. They learn quickly and are creatively endowed. It’s one aspect of maturity you can develop and be better.

4. Social Maturity

This has to do with your social life - relationship with real people in definite places. Social media many times have caused more harm than good. The media hardly help develop social maturity. That’s why this category dwells on social practical relationships.

5. Ethical Maturity

Maturity greatly hinges on ethics. Codes of conduct, styles, morals and standards all make up maturity.

It's all-encompassing. From speech, deeds, to thoughts and reactions, you can identify traits of mature people.

Mature People - Who Are They?

Mature people possess special qualities and discipline. It’s more in their deeds than in words. An example is silence.

Silence has served as the best answer in certain situations. Only matured people wisely use this maturity tool. That non-violent act alone has handled many problems.

When you know when to keep quiet and watch, it’s maturity. Silence can never be misquoted. It’s a great tool to kill many little issues before they get big.

Special Qualities of Mature People

You know mature people by certain special qualities they possess. Asides from silence, one of the greatest signs of maturity, below is a top 20 list of qualities of mature people (with "silence" topping the list).

The Top 20 Qualities of Mature People

1. Silence

2. Patience

3. Resilience

4. Diligence

5. Humility

6. Honesty

7. Accountability

8. Self Control

9. Gratefulness

10. Calmness

11. Self Awareness

12. Compassion

13. Determination

14. Peaceful

15. Stable

16. Optimistic

17. Considerate

18. Calm

19. Encouraging

20. Empathetic

Having seen the qualities of mature people, the next part of this article unleashes the top 10 stupid actions that immature people possess.

The 10 Stupid Actions Immature People Possess

1. Pride

Pride is one of the stupid actions immature people possess. You can identify pride in attitudes like arrogance, disrespect, looking down on others, feeling big and pompous. It could be because you got some heights, achievements or something else.

Don’t get proud of such things that you begin to undervalue people you’ve always respected. It’s highly stupid and immature.

2. Assumption

Never assume. Assumption is the lowest form of knowledge. It means to think you know what you don’t know. That’s stupid.
Never assume or guess why your friend did something to you. It’s simple. Walk up to your friend, ask why.

Get clear answers to questions on your heart about things. Don’t create a problem where none exists. Never harbour hatred for no vivid reasons. Ask questions. Clarify issues. Be matured.

3. Ingratitude

Ingratitude is an attitude of an immature fellow. An ungrateful person never places worth on anything. Immature people don’t appreciate things.

It could be a helping hand, or contribution, an idea, suggestion, whether it is in cash or kind. Learn to appreciate things. Big or small, that matters less.

4. Anger

One of the stupid actions immature people possess is anger. Mature people are not controlled by their actions. They control their actions. Control your temper. The moment you can’t resist the urge to be angry, you’re immature.

Anger solves nothing, it spoils everything. Anger destroys rather than build. You either choose to build your relationships by being patient and calm or tear them down in anger.

5. Selfishness

Selfish people want to keep all they have to themselves. It’s immature to have without a heart for others. Selflessness pictures growth, service and leadership.

It’s immature to be selfish. Selfishness makes you useless and wicked, even when you really don’t mean to.

6. Inconsistency

Inconsistency is a big problem tied to indiscipline. It’s about keeping to your words, values, style and persuasions. You’re immature when you sway away by what people think, feel and say about what you do.

Stick to your values and be true to your decisions no matter what happens. Discipline yourself never to give up. If you don’t learn to keep up consistently in your endeavors, you’re immature still.

7. Fake Living

You’ll live a fake life if you present a false version of you. This is common on social media. People take pictures beside someone else’s mansion or car, put it up and hash tag all sorts. You pretend to shop at a big mall, then put up the lie for the social world.

You’d eventually have a big problem living true. You’d sink yourself in the deep ditch of wanting to live up to your lies. It’s immature. It pressurises and chokes. Living fake kills slowly.

8. Dishonesty

One of the stupid actions immature people possess is dishonesty. You’re disgusting if you can’t be trusted. It’s immature to become a cheat because of little gains that’ll tarnish your image and dignity.

Be exact in speech and don’t mince words. Speak the truth honestly. Even though it’ll hurt, to be dishonest will hurt even more.

9. Bad manners

Bad manners consist of several negative attitudes. From rudeness, improper eye and body language, to being disrespectful and discourteous, bad manners are very destructive.

Refuse to grow up with bad manners. It’s common sense and mature to humbly greet, respect and treat people courteously.

10. Irresponsibility

An immature person hates blame and correction. Immature people hardly ever take responsibility. They lack skills that aid the smooth handling of responsibility.

Pride, ingratitude, selfishness, and other stupid actions will make handling responsibilities an uphill task for you. If you’re irresponsible, you’re simply immature. Grow up.

Final Thoughts

With this detailed information revealed on the stupid actions immature people possess, you’d sure have learned greatly. You’d have discovered areas where you should adjust and can help others in your circle of friends get better.

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Oluwafemi Oyeleye

Oluwafemi is a freelance writer who delights in helping people scale their businesses through stellar content. Contact him at unstoppablefreelance@gmail.com